What Judgement Can You Use to Make More Money?
by Guest Writer Kim Dietrich, kimdietrich.ca
Life is full of judgement. Throughout our lives we are either being judged or passing judgement on others. As schoolchildren we perform for our teachers’ approval and we listen dutifully at home to curry favor with our parents. We put our best foot forward in the workforce to gain our bosses’ approval and climb the ladder of success. Grooming ourselves and dressing attractively, we clamor for the praise of others, all the while displaying selfies on social media and basking in the ensuing digital attention. We look constantly to others for evaluation and judgement.
Taking on the Judgements of Others
In a recent episode of her radio show Creating Abundance with Ease, Dr. Helen Gitlevich explored how these judgements can limit us, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. The fact is, when we buy into the judgements of others, we confine ourselves to the parameters of their points of view and close ourselves off to other possibilities; if I think I am A, then I know I can’t be B, and I don’t even consider that I might be C and I can’t even see that D exists at all!
When someone judges us, it’s natural to try and understand whether their judgement is ‘correct’. Unfortunately, in the process of evaluating what they’ve said, we take on the energy of their judgement. Helen asks us to consider what might happen if we simply labelled such judgements a lie and refused them altogether?
Is it a Self-Judgement or a Self-Awareness?
In addition to accepting judgements from external sources, we also generate them internally. Some self-reflective thoughts, however, are more self-awareness than self-judgement; it can be challenging to distinguish between the two. If we go into our bodies, Helen explains, we can usually feel the difference. Whatever feels light is an awareness and whatever feels heavy is generally a judgement; think of the expansive lightness you feel in nature, walking in a forest, relaxing on a beach or climbing a mountain range, versus the heavy darkness you experience when someone tells you something negative.
We complicate things when we refuse to accept our capacity for awareness. Suppose, says Helen, we come to an awareness of how to make more money, but we quickly follow our thought with a judgement, coming up with excuses to push our awareness away or make it seem impossible. Instead of moving from awareness into creation, we slip into judgement and close off possibility. Helen asks us to consider how much more we could create if we followed our awareness with allowance instead of judgement; if we remained open instead of closing ourselves off to possibilities.
Staying Open to Receiving More
Sometimes we receive money but behave dismissively towards it, perhaps considering the amount to be insignificant. Helen encourages us to shift this type of thinking and become more open to receiving. The more we acknowledge what we receive, the more we ultimately attract and allow. And while this is certainly true with money, it can extend into all parts of our lives. When we don’t confine ourselves to the limitations of judgement, we remain open to the possibility of more – more money, opportunity, love, happiness or contentment.
Sometimes we can’t see what more is possible because we aren’t able to imagine beyond our current circumstances. To shift into being open to any and all possibilities, Helen recommends the questions of Access Consciousness: What’s right about this that I’m not getting? What else is possible? How does it get any better than this? What would it take for me to create that? Sending these queries out into the universe can move us into the magic of generating and creating new things.
Being Focused Can Keep Us Stuck
We’re often encouraged to maintain focus, especially at work. But when we become entrenched in that focus – attached to a point of view – we close our minds off to new possibilities. Helen offers a meditation to help move beyond these mental limitations, beginning with an encouragement to reject the concept of being grounded. Instead, she says, check in with where you are in your head, heart and body and then shift away from being solid and susceptible to the judgements of others. Drop your barriers and allow yourself to expand beyond your body – beyond the walls around you, beyond the earth, even beyond the universe. Notice whether it feels light or heavy. From that place of expansion, consider all the judgements you bombard yourself with and see that you can choose not to take them in. Judgement need not affect you.
Dropping our judgements, Helen says, allows us to move beyond our past and create a future that exceeds what we’ve already known. She suggests considering, for instance, what might happen if you let go of your judgement of work as a boring, tedious obligation? What if you approached work from a place of expansion and tried to see how much enjoyment it could bring? What if you shifted from looking at your obligations as undesirable and instead became open to their potential for creating joy? How much more could you accomplish or invite in? In work, and in life, you CAN set aside your judgements and be completely open to anything and everything. If you were open to any and all joy, Helen asks, what then would be possible?
Kim Dietrich is a content writer specializing in personal and career development.
Check out her print and online work at kimdietrich.ca.